To be divorced, you will need a judgment from the court pronouncing the divorce, and providing the details on all of the questions that must be resolved.
If you and your partner have come to an agreement on all of the issues, whether through collaborative divorce, family mediation, or in private discussions between you, those decisions can be drafted into a document called an “Agreement on Accessory Measures”. A lawyer can petition the court to accept your agreement as your divorce judgment, without either of you ever having to appear in court.
It is always advisable to try to settle your divorce issues outside of the court. If, unfortunately, this has not yet happened, you can choose to give the dust a bit more time to settle, and keep trying to coax your partner into negotiating with you. If the time comes that it is important for a divorce judgment to be rendered, and there is still no agreement, you can choose to go to court and ask a judge to rule on the issues that you are unable to settle yourselves. This is the litigation option.
